5 ways to reclaim your sensuality as a mother, in everyday life

In our current modern world, where disconnection often feels like the norm and so much focus can be outside of ourselves, it’s a radial act to enjoy ourselves and live from our sensuality and feminine spirit.

However I believe it’s the very thing that is missing in our over scheduled lives that contributes to our overall happiness, fulfillment, and confidence as a woman and mother. In order for us to show up as the type of woman and mother that we want to be, we first need to be connected to ourselves - which as a Mother can be difficult. Reclaiming our sensuality is one way to build that connection and it can be interwoven into our daily lives.

Sensuality is often misunderstood. It can be associated with overt, unwanted sexuality or some sketchy store selling sensual products... non of which I am talking about here.

I view sensuality as an amplifier - while in its most basic form - it’s simply taking in your experience through your five senses, however if done well, with intention, it truly makes life more enjoyable.

Sensuality is the depth and richness brought to any experience; it’s the

missing link … the “something more” that you’re unconsciously seeking. It’s the epitome of a woman who seems to float through life, she’s present, grounded, has conviction, and a silent inner confidence and contentment that creates magnetism and mystery.

Here are five ways that you can start tapping into your sensuality at home, in your everyday life - and yes even with kids.

Practice #1

Ask yourself the question – “What would make this more pleasurable”

This is the best hack into your desires and I have so much fun with this question… it can be as simple as a warm cup of tea, or to make your tea hotter than it is, or a blanket while on the couch reading - it allows you to build your capacity for taking responsibility for your pleasure step by step.

Practice #2

Slow down and do nothing Sensual Sundays seems to be a thing in the world of instagram - while you may not have a full day to devote to cultivating your sensuality, start by sitting or laying down and doing nothing for 5 minutes. Use this time to notice sounds, scents, perhaps the air or wind on your body and just take it in.

Practice #3 Oil self massage

Find a delicious massage oil with a scent that you enjoy. While in the shower (and with great care to not slip from the oil!) massage your breasts gently, shake them, cup them, and start to explore what feels good.

Practice #4 Hip circles with feather light touch

Building on the self touch theme, practicing hip circles with feather light touches all over your body is a quick way to drop into connection with yourself.

Practice #5 Upgrade a fabric and play dress up

Instead of shlepping around in the same old thing, upgrade an everyday basic to be more luxurious and still comfortable - think a silk robe or washable silk pajamas. If you have extra time - play dress up! Try different textiles on and dance and move - it can be so liberating to dress up in a wildly outlandish sensual outfit (or lack there of) and enjoy yourself.

Choose one practice to start with and set yourself up for success by putting it in your calendar or placing a sticky note reminder on your mirror. I hope these 5 simple practices will help you rediscover your feminine sensual nature. Remember, reclaiming your sensuality is simply moving through life at a pace where you can enjoy yourself through your senses - see, taste, hear, touch, smell - it’s a practice that you build and as you build it more and more will unfold into other areas of your life - such as deepening your relationship and deepening your sexual experiences too.

I’d love to hear from you - email me at ashley@ashleymaina.com if you’d like more support in rediscovering your sensuality and Self as a woman and mother, or connect with me on instagram at @ashleymainacoaching.